Beautifully Single

I started listening to this podcast by Kalyn Nicholson. If you haven't checked it out, you definitely should. She is a very inspring person who has so much good advice to give. Anyway, today I was listening to one about being single. I thought it was a great topic, and it was the perfect timing for my life right now.

She brought up the fact that being single is a good thing. You have the opportunity to focus on yourself. You can accomplish your goals and grow into the person you want to become without distractions. This is a great way to look at being single. It can get lonely at times, especially when you notice everyone around you is in a relationship. They have found their person, so why can't I find mine? Well, being single means that YOU are your person. You get to care for you, love you, and grow with you. It is a beauitful thing that is easily taken for granted when you are single.

Another point that Kalyn made is that when you stop looking, things find you. Whether this is a significant other, an opportunity or the time you needed for yourself, being single and focused on yourself allows life to play out the way it normally wouldn't if you are looking for things to happen. Let life happen. Work on the things you have always wanted to, and allow life to take you in a direction you never thought it would go. It is an amazing opportunity to let go of control and just breathe.

I say we allow ourselves to be single. This doesn't mean to stop going on dates, but this also doesn't mean to force relationships to come from them. Take time for yourself. Figure out what you want from life and a relationship. Allow life to work. Being single can be a beautiful thing if you just let life happen.

-L